Common Misconceptions About the Bereavement Process

Considering how everyone on the planet thinks and acts a bit differently, it should come as no surprise that there are many ways to cope with grief. Still, popular culture has long dictated how people should mourn the loss of their loved ones, resulting in several persistent myths surrounding the bereavement process.

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Survivors need constant company

While many people find it soothing to be surrounded by love and support after a loved one’s passing, others find it overwhelming. Some people would rather absorb the loss independently and share their feelings later, if at all. Sometimes it’s best to respect an individual’s privacy following a tragic event.   

You must put on a strong face

After losing a loved one, some people insist on “being strong,” and putting on a brave face for their family. However, crying is a completely normal to reaction to loss, and being honest with your emotions carries with it a different kind of strength.

A year is too long to grieve

Losing a loved one is the most emotionally difficult time for most people. Given the impact of such an event, a mourner shouldn’t be expected to “get over” the death of a loved one in a set amount of time. For many people, the bereavement process never ends; it merely changes over time.  

The pain will go away if ignored

Wouldn’t it be nice to completely forgo the bereavement process and go on living life normally? Unfortunately, few people have the capacity to put aside strong feelings of loss. Most people need to explore their emotions, ask tough questions, and seek help until they come out the other side. Experts agree that ignoring one’s emotions does more harm than good.  

For help getting through the bereavement process, contact the compassionate staff members of Valley of the Temples. Our Oahu cemetery offers numerous funeral services designed to help others find closure and move on. Call us at (808) 239-8811 to find out how you can plan a loved one’s funeral or pre-plan your own.