• Tips for Choosing Sympathy Flowers

    Sympathy flower arrangements are a traditional way of offering condolences after a person dies. While any arrangement you choose will be appreciated, there are special flowers that help convey consolation and sympathy more than others. Calla lilies, roses, gladiolas, and snapdragons are traditional funeral flowers, but it is also appropriate to choose flowers that the deceased may have liked. Talk with a florist for help selecting flowers with empathetic meanings, or consult with a funeral planning professional about the type of arrangement that will be appropriate considering the type of memorial service. 

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    Since 1963, Valley of the Temples Memorial Park has provided compassionate funeral and memorial services for the Oahu community. Visit our website to learn more about the services our memorial park offers, or please call us at (808) 239-8811 with any questions you may have. 

  • Helping Someone Cope with Grief and Loss

    Grief is one of the most universally experienced emotions, especially after the passing of a friend or family member. It can be hard to deal with the loss, but it can be just as hard to watch someone you care about fall into a pit of despair after they lose a loved one. While it is normal to grieve for weeks or even months following the funeral or memorial service, you should provide as much comfort and support as you can to help your friend or partner through this incredibly trying time. Here are a few tips for helping someone cope with grief and loss:

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    Listen With Compassion

    Most people worry about what to say to a person who is grieving the loss of a loved one, but knowing how to listen is just as important. When a person is grieving, he or she needs to feel that they can openly talk about their emotions and what they are going through. Acknowledge the situation and express your concern, but listen with compassion and allow the bereaved to talk honestly about the grief they are experiencing.

    Offer Your Support

    Because it can be hard for grieving people to ask for help, offer your support instead of waiting for your loved one to ask for it. Even simple things like shopping for groceries or helping with funeral arrangements can go a long way in helping the bereaved recognize that they are not alone in this trying time. And remember that your friend or family member will need your support for as long as they are grieving, which can be months or even years.

    Be Patient

    There is no timetable for grieving, so be patient and do not try to force your friend or family member to get over the sadness they feel. Your ongoing support is important, as it may be the only thing keeping your loved one from sinking deeper into depression. If normal grief turns into depression, encourage your friend or family member to seek professional help.

    Valley of the Temples has been serving Oahu with a place of peace and serenity for loved ones for almost 50 years. We offer touching funeral and memorial services, and our grief counselors are here for your support. To learn more about our memorial park, visit our website or call us at (808) 239-8811.

  • How to Comfort Someone Who Has Lost a Loved One

    It can be hard to cope with the loss of a friend or family member, but it can be just as hard to watch someone you care for deal with the grief that follows death. If someone you care for has lost a loved one, provide comfort and support to help lessen the pain and despair they are going through.

    In this video, a licensed marriage and family therapist offers advice on helping friends through the grieving process. If you need additional support, the grief counselors at Valley of the Temples in Oahu are here to help. We also offer funeral planning and memorial services that can help your friend give a meaningful tribute to the loved one he or she lost. Contact us online or call our memorial park directly at (808) 239-8811 to learn more.