The days following the loss of a spouse can be a difficult and uncertain time. You may feel sad, lonely, and even guilty for finding moments of happiness after your partner has passed on. Learning how to move on in healthy ways while continuing to memorialize your loved one’s memory can help you to adjust to your new circumstances without forgetting the positive influences your spouse had on your life.
While some grief is meant to be private, the process of grieving should never be experienced completely alone. There are times when the support and love of others is important to help you regain your balance and find ways to feel grief without letting it overwhelm you. However, it’s also important to find the right kind of support while you are grieving. Seek those who are willing to listen without telling you how you should grieve. Grief is a very different process for each person and your experience will be unique.
Take Your Time
Just as grief is different for each person, the length of time that each person feels grief is different as well. Be kind to yourself and give yourself the time you need to accept the loss, rather than setting a date by which you will stop grieving. Similarly, you should not let others tell you when it is time to move on or when it is time to “get back out there” if you are not ready to expand your social circle. Take your time when handling your spouse’s personal effects; there is no right or wrong time to move or pack your spouse’s belongings.
At Valley of the Temples, our goal is to help you honor the life of your spouse with a personalized ceremony and memorial that you and your family will cherish. We offer online grief support to help you through your loss at any time of the day or night. You can find out more about our beautiful memorial park on the windward side of Oahu by calling (808) 239-8811 or clicking through our website.
Death is a natural part of life and is something that everyone must face at some point in their lives. Funeral traditions vary greatly across time and cultures, but researchers believe that every civilization has had a way of honoring their dead. Ancient Hawaiian burial practices often took place in caves instead of cemeteries, with the bodies placed in the fetal position. There are caves throughout Hawaii that still contain remains of those who are long deceased. In this infographic from Valley of the Temples Memorial Park in Oahu, you’ll learn more about funeral traditions and how different cultures have influenced Hawaiian practices. Please share with your friends and family.
At Valley of the Temples Memorial Park, we believe each life is beautiful and unique. We are pleased to offer families our Signature Services, which allow for added personalization to commemorate the memory of your loved one. If you’d like to learn more about these special funeral and memorial services, please contact a staff member for more information and assistance.
Solid Wood Flag Case
A life spent in service to one’s country is a proud and special one. Valley of the Temples offers our solid wood flag case, designed to protect and display the United States flag presented to family members upon the loss of a veteran. The finely-polished case features a glass front panel to allow easy viewing of the cherished flag while preventing damage from dirt dust.
Butterfly Release Ceremony
Butterflies are a poignant and beautiful symbol that represents the human spirit. Valley of the Temples offers a butterfly release ceremony as a fitting end to any funeral or memorial service. As you and your family watch the butterfly spiral into the sky, you will be reminded of your loved one’s soul as it rises above the world to join family members that have passed on before him.
Hawaiian Tree Legacy
The people of Hawaii have long understood that humans and nature can live together harmoniously as one. Koa trees have long been a part of Hawaiian culture, providing valuable wood and medicinal supplies. After the passing of your loved one, Valley of the Temples can arrange for the planting of a Koa tree in Hilo in his name, beginning a legacy that will last many years and touch many lives.
Your loved one’s unique personality can now be commemorated with a funeral or memorial service just as unique and meaningful. If you’d like to learn more about the Signature Services offered at Valley of the Temples, call us today at (808) 239-8811. Our staff can help you choose the perfect funeral service for your family’s needs. Click through our blog for more information about funeral services and customs on Oahu.
When attending a funeral, it is important to dress appropriately to show respect for the deceased and their family. This video offers tips on dressing properly for a funeral or memorial service.
Wear dark-colored clothing, such as black, dark gray, or dark blue. Your clothing should be conservative—dress as you would to attend a job interview or religious location. Men should wear a muted tie while women’s jewelry should be understated. If the funeral will be held outdoors, consider bringing a dark-colored umbrella to shield from the sun or rain.
At Valley of the Temples, we are here to help you create a personalized service to honor the life of your loved one. Our staff can assist you with funeral planning, cemetery arrangements, and cemetary cremation in Oahu. Please call (808) 239-8811 or visit our website to learn more about our beautiful memorial park.
At Valley of the Temples, we offer a variety of options to memorialize your loved one in a special and lasting way. Each memorial is designed to uniquely suit the personality and life of your family member. Consider creating a bench that reflects the passions and personality of your loved one while providing respite for your family and others who visit our memorial park. We also offer pedestal memorials that stand as functional or artistic tributes to the life of a lost family member. You may choose to place a post or cremation estate at the final resting place of your loved one to mark his passing and celebrate his memory. Each bench, pedestal, post, or estate can be personalized to reflect a career, a hobby, a lifelong passion, or a religious symbol of importance that captures the essence of the person it represents.
Would you like to learn more about creating a personalized memorial for your loved one? You can reach Valley of the Temples by calling (808) 239-8811 or clicking on our web contact form for more information about our memorial park and Japanese Byodo-In Temple.
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