A Brief History of Valley of the Temples Memorial Park

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Paul Trousdale founded the Valley of the Temples Memorial Park in 1963. Located in a unique area of the Windward side of Oahu, our cemetery is home to wildlife such as Japanese koi and wild peacocks, and is surrounded by mountains that overlook the ocean. Our gardens pay homage to many faiths, including Christianity and Buddhism. We have built a replica of Japan’s 950-year-old Byodo-In Temple. Made of concrete, this temple was completed in 1968 to honor the 100th anniversary of the first Japanese immigrants arriving to Hawaii. Our professional, compassionate staff has years of experience caring for families from all walks of life.

To experience the serenity and peace of the Valley of the Temples Memorial Park Oahu, visit us today for a tour of our grounds. For help in funeral pre-planning or to learn more about our cemetery arrangements, call us at (808) 239-8811 or check out our website.

The Steps of Comforting a Grieving Friend

If your friend has recently lost a loved one, you may be unsure of what to say to her. You may not be able to take away her pain or anger, but you can provide support that will help her go through the grieving process and eventually move on to the healing process.

As you will see in this video, everyone grieves in his or her own way. Being around to listen to your friend can help her express her anger and vent her frustrations. You can also take care of certain daily tasks to give your friend more time to focus on her feelings during this difficult period. 

Get more advice for supporting a grieving loved one by contacting Valley of the Temples Memorial Park in Oahu. Call us at (808) 239-8811 for information about grieving, funeral pre-planning, and cemetery arrangements at our beautiful memorial park on the island of Oahu.

The Advantages of Planning a Funeral In Advance

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Imagine planning an entire wedding in a day or two; in addition to the stress of planning it, it’s not hard to envision the wedding being disorganized and a bit disappointing. Believe it or not, the same is true of planning a funeral in a hurry. Planning a funeral in advance has many advantages, including:

Reduce the Burden on Your Family

A death in the family is incredibly difficult to deal with, especially if your family is unaware of your final wishes. Do you have a preference between being buried or cremated, and having an open casket or a closed one? If so, make a funeral plan so your family does not have to make these difficult decisions at a stressful time.

Assume the Financial Responsibility for Your Funeral

Assuming the financial responsibility for your funeral will allow your survivors to focus more on the ceremony itself, rather than how to pay for it and who will pay for the ceremony. Consider purchasing funeral insurance or pre-purchase funeral services at a funeral home or cemetery to make it even easier.

Plan a Meaningful Funeral

A meaningful funeral will help your family reach closure, while giving them the opportunity to grieve and celebrate your life with your surviving loved ones. To ensure that your family can come together for a proper send off, plan the funeral in advance.

Allow Your Final Wishes to Be Followed

Late in life, many people have preferences for how they wish to be honored and remembered at their funeral service. Record your desires and leave your plan with your family and a reputable funeral home to ensure your final wishes are carried out. Doing this will give you and your family comfort and peace of mind.

For assistance in planning a funeral, contact Valley of Temples Memorial Park Oahu. We are happy to help with funeral pre-planning and show you our cemetery arrangements. Call us at (808) 239-8811 or visit our website for more information about our funeral pre-planning services. 

Tips for Writing a Eulogy

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It’s an honor to be asked to present a eulogy at a funeral. To properly cherish the deceased publically at his or her funeral, take some time beforehand to plan and write a eulogy. Just remember, it doesn’t have to be perfect. At Valley of the Temple Memorial Park Oahu, we recommend the following tips to ensure your eulogy is easy to deliver and well received by the family and friends of the deceased.

Don’t Stress

Public speaking isn’t easy for most people, but the great thing about delivering a eulogy is that nobody is expecting it to be flawless. Because the audience is comprised of people who care deeply about the deceased, they will appreciate virtually anything you say. In fact, those attending the funeral will probably find it endearing if you happen to mess up. Think of it as a conversation with the friends and family about the life of the deceased.

Personalize It

There’s no correct way to deliver a eulogy. Many people like to give a brief life history of the deceased, important achievements in his or her life, details about friends, work, hobbies, and family, and favorite memories of the deceased. Most eulogies are between 5 and 15 minutes, but you can make it as long or as short as you want. If you prefer a shorter eulogy, ask other funeral participants if they would like to take turns telling short stories or warm comments about the deceased.

Write Your Eulogy

It may be helpful to write an outline of the major events that occurred in the deceased person’s life. Jot down your favorite memories of the deceased, as well as his or her passions, hobbies, and interests. With these ideas in mind, produce a list of comments you want to make. It’s okay to write a speech that’s both serious and funny—funerals are a place for both sadness and celebration.

If you are preparing to make funeral and cemetery arrangements, contact Valley of the Temples Memorial Park Oahu. Visit our website to see our cemetery and funeral pre-planning guide, and call us at (808) 239-8811 to speak with one of our funeral planners