Tips for Writing a Eulogy

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It’s an honor to be asked to present a eulogy at a funeral. To properly cherish the deceased publically at his or her funeral, take some time beforehand to plan and write a eulogy. Just remember, it doesn’t have to be perfect. At Valley of the Temple Memorial Park Oahu, we recommend the following tips to ensure your eulogy is easy to deliver and well received by the family and friends of the deceased.

Don’t Stress

Public speaking isn’t easy for most people, but the great thing about delivering a eulogy is that nobody is expecting it to be flawless. Because the audience is comprised of people who care deeply about the deceased, they will appreciate virtually anything you say. In fact, those attending the funeral will probably find it endearing if you happen to mess up. Think of it as a conversation with the friends and family about the life of the deceased.

Personalize It

There’s no correct way to deliver a eulogy. Many people like to give a brief life history of the deceased, important achievements in his or her life, details about friends, work, hobbies, and family, and favorite memories of the deceased. Most eulogies are between 5 and 15 minutes, but you can make it as long or as short as you want. If you prefer a shorter eulogy, ask other funeral participants if they would like to take turns telling short stories or warm comments about the deceased.

Write Your Eulogy

It may be helpful to write an outline of the major events that occurred in the deceased person’s life. Jot down your favorite memories of the deceased, as well as his or her passions, hobbies, and interests. With these ideas in mind, produce a list of comments you want to make. It’s okay to write a speech that’s both serious and funny—funerals are a place for both sadness and celebration.

If you are preparing to make funeral and cemetery arrangements, contact Valley of the Temples Memorial Park Oahu. Visit our website to see our cemetery and funeral pre-planning guide, and call us at (808) 239-8811 to speak with one of our funeral planners