• An Overview of Funeral Traditions in Hawaii

    A funeral serves as a final goodbye, allowing friends and family members to express their feelings and celebrate the life of their lost loved one. If you are starting the funeral pre-planning process, you might want to learn about traditional funeral services in Hawaiian culture. 

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    Funeral Traditions From the Past

    Hawaiian culture is filled with many traditional influences as well as a number of modern ones. Today’s funerals may feature more modern customs, but funerals in the past followed a few traditional rituals to honor the deceased and help loved ones say goodbye. Cave burials were once very popular among the Hawaiian people. The deceased person would either be arranged to lie flat in the cave or have his or her knees pushed up to his or her chest and tied into place to maintain the fetal position. Some ancient Hawaiians also performed burials at sea, placing the body on a cloth and sending it into the ocean.

    Current Funeral Traditions

    Many different cultures have influenced and currently influence Hawaiian customs. That is why there are many more burial options chosen by Hawaiian people as a way to say goodbye to their lost loved ones. Modern funeral services typically take place at churches, memorial parks, cemeteries, or even private homes. A religious or otherwise respected figure conducts a service honoring the deceased before the casket is buried in the ground. Unlike traditional American funerals where guests wear black, Hawaiian funerals typically feature guests wearing bright colors.

    Making the Right Choice

    Only you can decide on the right funeral option for your loved one. You can meet with a memorial park representative to get more information about funeral pre-planning options and services you can add to honor your friend or family member.

    Valley of the Temples Memorial Park of Oahu can help you plan a beautiful funeral ceremony to celebrate your friend or family member. Contact us at (808) 239-8811 to start the funeral pre-planning process, and visit our website to learn more about our memorial park. 

  • Distinguishing Between Grief and Depression

    Experiencing profound sadness after the loss of a loved one is natural. However, it’s important to recognize when your feelings may be more than grief and may actually be depression. If you’re experiencing intense grief without relief long after the funeral has ended, then you may need to talk to a mental health professional for help with your feelings. Consider this comparison of grief and depression, and consult a physician to determine which best describes your feelings. 

    Distinguishing Between Grief and Depression - Valley of the Temples


    There is no right way to experience grief. It causes a range of emotions, from sadness to guilt to anger. Many people swing back and forth between these emotions while grieving a loss. Physical symptoms may also accompany grief, including trouble sleeping, nausea, weight changes, and lowered immunity. The one constant thing about grief is that it is almost always changing. While grieving, you will still experience periods of relief, happiness, and laughter. Eventually, grief should move from being your central focus to something that remains in the background.


    Depression and grief share many of the same symptoms, but with one major difference. With depression, relief never comes. You won’t experience moments of happiness or find comfort in the activities or people you used to enjoy. Your depressed feelings become the defining characteristic of your life, and you may lack the motivation required to try to find relief.

    What To Do If It’s More Than Grief

    There is no timetable for dealing with grief, but if your symptoms sound more like depression, see your doctor for help. Therapy and medications can help you recover from your depression and may even help you progress through the grieving process. It may also help to find a support group for people going through the same experiences.

    Valley of the Temples is proud to provide grief and healing support services to the families who choose our Oahu cemetery for the funeral of a loved one. We offer a range of services, including funeral pre-planning, cemetery arrangements, and more. Learn additional information about our memorial park by calling (808) 239-8811. 

  • Choosing Between Burial and Cremation

    Choosing Between Burial and Cremation - Valley of the Temples

    Different cultures and religions have different beliefs regarding what to do when a loved one passes away. This means there are many decisions to make after a loved one passes, including whether to have a traditional burial or go with cremation.

    Many people tell their spouses, children, and loved ones which option they would prefer after they pass once they start getting older. Unfortunately, not everyone is able to clarify which option they would prefer before their passing. That is why it is important for family members to come together and choose between burial and cremation. With a traditional burial, you can have an open casket so that guests can see their friend or family member one last time as they say goodbye. If you choose cremation, the ashes can be divided up so each family member can keep a little bit with them. Burial on cemetery grounds along with a heartfelt service can be performed with either option.

    Valley of the Temples can help you and your family make the right decision for your loved one. You can learn about our Oahu funeral pre-planning options by visiting us online or calling us at (808) 239-8811. 

  • Are Your Children Too Young to Attend a Funeral?

    There is no right or wrong age for a child to attend a funeral. Consider the specific needs of your child and how you anticipate he or she may react to the funeral. This video offers additional guidance to help you make your decision.

    Start by explaining funerals to your child so he or she knows what to expect. Be prepared for your child to not fully understand the concept of funerals or the permanence of death. When possible, respect your child’s wishes about funeral attendance.

    At Valley of the Temples, we’re committed to providing a peaceful funeral experience as you say goodbye to a lost loved one. For information about our Oahu memorial park or funeral pre-planning services, call (808) 239-8811.  

  • Byodo-In Temple November 2014 Events

    Check out what’s going on at our Byodo-In Temple this month here. Schedule may change without notice, so feel free to contact us at (808) 239-9844.

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