Honoring a lost loved one is as much about celebrating the individual’s life as it is about healing from grief. At Valley of the Temples, a memorial park in Oahu, HI, we strive to help families choose a personalized memorial that will best reflect their loved one’s life, personality, and accomplishments. A funeral home director at our memorial park would be honored to help your family design a personalized memorial that tells the story of your loved one.
You may choose to place a personalized cremation island in our memorial park. Cremation islands commonly include a bust or statue of your loved one, tasteful landscaping, and inscriptions that capture his or her essence. We also provide personalized memorial benches, including an Army veteran bench, Marine veteran bench, and many more. Families can also choose from a variety of flat memorials, pedestals, MonuBenches, pedestal benches, and private cremation estates.
Since 1963, Oahu residents have turned to our funeral home and memorial park for solace following a loss. You can contact Valley of the Temples at (808) 206-7610 to discuss ways of honoring your loved one.
For many people, pre-planning funeral services only makes sense because it enables them to express their preferences and it prevents family members from feeling unsure or conflicted regarding these important decisions. When it’s time to pre-plan a funeral, however, some individuals may find it difficult to discuss these issues with their family members.
Choosing the Right Time
When it comes to discussing emotionally charged issues, choosing the right time is especially important. For parents who need to discuss funeral services with their adult children, it may be best to discuss pre-planning when they have already established a plan. When adult children need to broach the subject with their aging parents, it’s generally best to have the conversation sooner, rather than later. Life holds unexpected surprises and delaying the conversation for too long may mean that it never takes place at all.
Talking to Aging Parents
Adult children often try to find a tactful way to broach this difficult subject with their aging parents. An adult child might say, “Mom, one of my friends recently lost a parent. I know this is difficult to talk about, but I want to make sure your wishes are respected when the time comes.” Another way to broach the subject is for adult children to discuss their own pre-planning decisions. If parents are willing to pre-plan a funeral, children could offer to go with them to meet the funeral director.
Talking to Adult Children
Parents might sometimes hesitate to discuss their funeral plans with their adult children because they don’t want to needlessly worry them. If a serious health issue did prompt the pre-planning process; however, it’s usually best to be upfront about this problem. Otherwise, parents can begin the conversation by reassuring their children that is no pressing health concern, but that they want to make the aftermath of a passing easier on the children when the time comes. Explain where the plan is located and answer questions about the details if you wish.
At Valley of the Temples, we believe that pre-planning funeral services is a natural part of the cycle of life. Our funeral home offers a variety of options to assist your family. You could begin pre-planning through our website or call us at (808) 206-7610 to arrange an appointment with one of our pre-planning advisors at our funeral home near Oahu, HI.
When you arrange a funeral, one of the decisions you will need to make is who will delivery the eulogy at the funeral service. Being asked to deliver a eulogy is an honor, but writing one can an emotional process. There are several different types of eulogies that can be used, including a chronological eulogy. Watch this video to learn more.
A chronological eulogy provides a factual retelling of a person’s life, including his or her achievements and major experiences. Some people find that taking this approach to a eulogy makes it easier to deliver in light of the emotion involved in a funeral service.
At Valley of the Temples, our funeral home staff is here to make the funeral planning process as easy for you as possible. We offer a variety of funeral ceremony styles, including cremation ceremonies. When you need our services, call (808) 206-7610.
Many individuals decide to pre-plan funeral services because they do not wish their surviving family members to bear the burden of making difficult decisions in the midst of their grief. However, pre-planning your funeral has another benefit. You’ll be able to ensure that you will be honored and remembered in exactly the way you prefer. If you have a strong preference for cremation, for example, pre-planning is an effective way to ensure your wishes are carried out.
Understanding Direct Cremation
When you pre-plan your funeral services, you may be as specific or general as you like. Some people may only prefer to specify that they wish to be cremated, while others arrange the details of the cremation ceremony and subsequent handling of the cremains. When you arrange your services, it’s a good idea to specify whether you prefer direct cremation or not. As the name implies, direct cremation means that your body will be rendered to its most basic elements shortly after death. This allows your family members to gather at a later time, if you wish, to celebrate your life at a cremation ceremony. If you prefer direct cremation with no services to follow, be sure to put this in writing.
Choosing Other Services
If you do wish your family members and friends to take part in a cremation ceremony, you may want to arrange a direct visitation. This involves arranging calling hours at the funeral home prior to cremation. A memorial service could then be held after the cremation. Or, you might prefer that your family gather for a cremation ceremony after the cremation, without the visitation. The choice is entirely yours to make. However, if you have trouble making your decision, you may wish to consult your family members to determine whether they have any preferences for remembering you.
The funeral home directors at Valley of the Temples understand how difficult it can be to make decisions regarding a funeral ceremony. That’s why we offer comprehensive and compassionate services to help you pre-plan a funeral in Oahu, HI. Call (808) 206-7610 or visit us on the Web to request our free pre-planning guide.
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