• Delivering a Eulogy: Tips for Nervous Speakers

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    Most people experience anxiety when they are asked to deliver a eulogy at a loved one’s funeral service or memorial service. Whether you are nervous about speaking in front of crowds, or just aren’t sure what to say in your eulogy, you can overcome your anxiety. Here are some great tips for nervous speakers can use when planning a funeral eulogy.

    Ask the funeral director or officiator for guidelines.
    Sometimes, the family of the deceased has certain guidelines in place that they would prefer eulogizers follow when speaking at a funeral service or cremation service. Some religions and cultures do not allow eulogies at all. Some religions may have restrictions as to the length of time each person is allotted to speak during the funeral ceremony. Before you begin planning a funeral eulogy, you can ask the family, funeral director, or funeral ceremony officiator for any guidelines you must follow.

    Practice the eulogy many times.
    The more you practice delivering the eulogy, the less anxious you will feel during the funeral ceremony. You can ask friends if you can practice the eulogy in front of them, or you can recite it alone. Practice reading it aloud, and try to do so enough times that you memorize the first few minutes of it. When delivering the eulogy during the funeral service or cremation service, be sure to speak slowing and clearly.

    Research stress management techniques.
    You should also research some stress management techniques that you can use prior to delivering the eulogy. During the funeral ceremony, you can take deep breaths, recite a positive affirmation in your head, drink water, or utilize any other non-disruptive method of calming your nerves that you think will be helpful.

    If you’re in need of a funeral home near Oahu, HI to arrange a funeral service or burial service, come see us at Valley of the Temples Memorial Park. Our funeral home staff can assist you in planning a funeral service, burial service, or cremation service for a loved one of any religion or culture. Call us today at (808) 239-8811 for more information about our funeral home, memorial park, crematorium, and Byodo-In temple.

  • Tips for Applying Makeup to Wear to a Funeral

    If you are invited to be a guest at a funeral service or cremation ceremony, it is important that you behave respectfully. Your presence is meant to support the family and loved ones of the deceased, and to honor the person who has passed away. This means that your clothing, hair, and makeup should be demure and respectful.

    Watch this video for some helpful tips about applying makeup to wear to a funeral service, burial service, or cremation service. Erin Hendley, a professional makeup artist, discusses which makeup colors, trends, and styles are appropriate for a funeral service.

    If you’re planning a funeral on Oahu, HI, visit us at Valley of the Temples Memorial Park. Our experienced funeral home staff can walk you through the process of arranging a funeral, cremation ceremony, burial service, or memorial. To learn more about our funeral services, call us today at (808) 239-8811.

  • Debunking Common Misconceptions About Cremation

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    Many people now opt for a cremation service rather than a burial service when funeral planning for a loved one, or pre-planning a funeral for themselves. Cremation services are less expensive and more environmentally-friendly than a burial in a cemetery. Here is a look at some of the most common misconceptions about cremation, and why they are not true:

    Misconception: Cremation services are disrespectful.
    Some people believe that cremation services are disrespectful to the deceased. If your loved one did not want to be cremated, and left instructions for a burial service and funeral service, you should honor his wishes. Crematoriums are held to very strict standards when performing cremation services, however, and during every step of the cremation process, the deceased is handled with care and dignity. Funeral homes that have a crematorium on site can give you detailed information about their cremation process.

    Misconception: No religion allows cremation.
    While some orthodox religions still disapprove of cremation services, many cultures and religions do not have any ban on cremation. The Anglican, Episcopalian, Baptist, Catholic, Lutheran, Methodist, and Quaker churches do not prohibit cremation, and the deceased may be cremated or interred in a burial plot in a cemetery. For members of Hindu and Buddhist religions, cremation is very common. Cremation services are prohibited for Orthodox Jews, Eastern Orthodox, Mormons, Muslims, and Presbyterians.

    Misconception: You won’t be able to hold a funeral ceremony.
    Cremation services do not preclude you from holding a funeral ceremony, cremation ceremony, or memorial service. Once you receive the ashes from your funeral home or crematorium, they may be buried in a burial plot at a cemetery, interred in a memorial park, kept in an urn, or scattered somewhere meaningful. You can even preserve some ashes in an urn, and bury or scatter the rest.

    If you’re interested in learning more about planning a cremation ceremony near Oahu, HI, come see us at Valley of the Temples Memorial Park. Our funeral home has a crematorium on site, and we also have a beautiful memorial park and Byodo-In temple on our grounds. To speak with a member of our staff about cremation services, funeral services, or burial services, call us today at (808) 239-8811.