After a loved one dies, certain times of the year can become more difficult to cope with. You may become keenly aware of the absence of your loved one during holidays, birthdays, and other special occasions. The anniversaries of the death and the funeral services can renew the pain of grief, but they are also opportunities to remember and honor your loved one. There is no right or wrong way to honor a death anniversary; do what feels meaningful to you.
Visit the Memorial Site
It’s common for family members to gather at the cemetery on a death anniversary. Before you go, check with the cemetery staff regarding the policies on leaving flowers and personal items on the gravesite or memorial site.
Visit Loved Ones
Instead of or in addition to visiting the memorial site, you may wish to visit with your living loved ones. Gather everyone together for brunch or dinner and ask that each person shares his or her most cherished memory. Pass around family photo albums or scrapbooks.
Become a Volunteer
Some people prefer to stay as busy as possible on death anniversaries to distract themselves from the pain of grief. Consider setting aside the day to volunteer in your community. If possible, choose a volunteer position with a charitable organization that your loved one supported.
Connect with Nature
Exploring nature reminds people of the continuity of life. Visit a nature trail or other outdoor location that you and your loved one once enjoyed together. Plant a tree or start a flower garden in memory of your loved one.
Sort Through Possessions
It’s difficult to let go of a loved one’s possessions. If you feel you are ready, take some time on the death anniversary to sort through some of his or her belongings. Consider giving some items to other family members and close family friends; other items could be donated to charitable organizations.
With Valley of the Temples Memorial Park, you’re never alone in your grief. Our grief counselors in Oahu, HI, can help you honor and cherish your loved one long after the funeral services. Call (808) 239-8811 or access online grief support services via our website.
The specific beliefs and rituals of Hinduism can vary from sect to sect. One core belief about death and dying is that the spirit, atman , is permanent and unchangeable. The atman is reborn many times through reincarnation, known as samsara . Throughout each lifetime, it is the goal of the atman to achieve moksha , which is the release from samsara and the transcendence into the divine force. To honor a deceased loved one in the Hindu tradition, it is necessary to locate a funeral home that will accommodate certain rituals.
Before Death Occurs
When a person is ill and is near death, the family should contact a Hindu priest. The priest and family will gather with the dying person to chant mantras. Traditionally, the dying person is placed on a grass mat on the floor and water from the sacred Ganges River is placed in his or her mouth.
After Death Occurs
After the death, the family will perform a ritual washing. The decedent’s head is positioned to the south. A picture of the favorite deity of the decedent and a lighted oil lamp are placed near the head. The body is washed in purified water or in a blend of ghee, milk, yogurt, and honey, during which the family members chant mantras. If the decedent was a married woman and her husband is still living, her body is clothed in red. After the ritual washing is complete, the big toes are tied together, the hands are placed in a prayerful position, and the body is shrouded.
During the Funeral Services
There is usually no need to arrange a burial plot, since most Hindus are cremated. It is customary for the family to hold a simple visitation, followed by the cremation. Traditionally, only male relatives attend the cremation. It is preferred for a ritual cremation to take place on the Ganges, but it is acceptable to hold a ceremony at a crematory. Families may arrange for the ashes to be transported to the Ganges and scattered there.
Valley of the Temples Memorial Park can help you plan a graceful service for your deceased loved one. We respect and accommodate all faiths and cultures, and are privileged to offer Hindu and Buddhist funerals in Oahu, HI. Call our funeral home at (808) 239-8811 to speak with a knowledgeable funeral director.
Attending funeral services is a way of honoring the decedent and supporting the family. Before leaving for the funeral service, check in the mirror to make sure you’re dressed appropriately. Somber, conservative clothing is always appropriate. Dress in a way that does not unnecessarily call attention to yourself. Choose understated jewelry and minimal makeup. Men should choose conservative ties.
Watch this video for more helpful tips. You’ll learn about special accommodations for various religious beliefs such as Judaism. You’ll also learn that if you’ve been asked to be a pallbearer, you should wear a sport jacket and tie.
When it’s time to plan a funeral near Oahu, HI, families can turn to Valley of the Temples Memorial Park for respectful and courteous services. Call our funeral home at (808) 239-8811 with any questions you may have.
Within the spacious, scenic grounds of Valley of the Temple Memorial Park, our Private Family Estates welcome family members to gather and reflect upon the cherished memories of their loved ones. Here, your family will have peace, tranquility, and privacy. From our graceful Byodo-In Temple to the sweeping views of the ocean and Ko’olau Range, our cemetery offers everything your family could want in a final resting place.
Families from near and far have chosen the Private Family Estates at Valley of the Temple Memorial Park. Spacious areas within our cemetery have been designated as private, exclusive estates that may be designed to the exact preferences of the family. For generations to come, our memorial park will be privileged to serve your family.
Private Family Estates are only part of what we do here at Valley of the Temples Memorial Park. Our funeral ceremonies in Oahu, HI, are specially designed to suit the religion, culture, and traditions of each family who turns to us in the most difficult of times. You can request further information about our Private Family Estates by calling (808) 239-8811.
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