How to Express Your Sympathy When You Can’t Attend a Funeral

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After someone passes, timing and distance mean that it is not always possible to attend the funeral services. Fortunately, even from afar, you can offer your condolences and extend your support to the friends and family left behind. If you can’t attend a funeral service, consider these ideas for conveying your sympathy to the family.

Send a Card or Flowers
A sympathy card is an easy way to let the family know you are thinking of them, even if you can’t attend the funeral. Write a personal note in the card to express your feelings and offer your support. Sending flowers is another custom that many people appreciate. Before sending, check with the funeral home to see if flowers are being sent there and that flowers are in keeping with the funeral traditions of the family, as some faiths do not believe in the use of flowers for mourning. If you have a close relationship with the family, sending flowers to their home rather than the funeral home can also be a meaningful gesture.

Make a Financial Tribute
If there is a cause that was close to the heart of the deceased or that matters to the family, make a donation in the name of the deceased person. For instance, a donation to a cancer research group could be an appreciated tribute for someone who battled the disease, or a financial gift to an alma mater could hold special significance for the family.

Plan a Future Visit
It is normal for there to be an outpouring of grief during and immediately after a funeral, but as people return to their lives, the family often finds themselves alone with their mourning. Planning a future visit means you can offer your support at a time when most other people have stopped and the family really needs it.

If you’d like to offer condolences to family who is having a funeral at Valley of the Temples Memorial Park in Oahu, HI, please visit our website to send a tribute or to learn more about the services. You can also contact us at (808) 239-8811 for more information about our funeral, burial, or cremation services.

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