The Mourner’s Guide to Meditation

Funeral Home Oahu

When you’re in mourning, there is no simple process for feeling better. Everyone experiences grief in his or her own way, and learning the best way to manage your emotions takes time. After funeral services have ended and you’re facing a long road of grieving, one practice you may find helpful is meditation. Meditation allows you to experience the feelings of grief and mourning rather than trying to avoid them, which may help you to heal. Could meditation help you to manage your grief? Here is what you need to know.

What are the impacts of grief?
Although grief is different for everyone, most people face a combination of sadness, loneliness, guilt, regret, anger, fear, and depression. Which emotions dominate your feelings depends on many factors, including your relationship with the person who has passed away. If you had unresolved emotional issues with your loved one, then your grieving can be even more complicated, because you may not know how to get that resolution without the other person being present. Grief can manifest itself with both psychological and physical symptoms. Meditation gives you an opportunity to experience and process your feelings in a thoughtful, peaceful way.

How do I meditate?
Take 15 to 20 minutes and sit in a comfortable, quiet space where you won’t be interrupted. Take a few long, deep breaths and then gently acknowledge how you are feeling without trying to analyze or judge those feelings. After a few minutes of this, picture your lost loved one and imagine yourself telling him or her the things you want to say. After you’ve said these things, take some time to remember and relive positive memories. Finish your meditation by taking a few more deep breaths. Practicing this meditation ritual whenever you feel overwhelmed by grief will help you move forward.

Valley of the Temples Memorial Park in Oahu, HI is home to a meditation pavilion, which is located behind our Byodo-In Temple. It’s the perfect peaceful place to practice your meditation and focus on healing. You can learn more about visiting our memorial park and about the services we provide by calling (808) 239-8811.