Displaying proper behavior and decorum while attending a
funeral service is essential for showing your sympathy toward the family and your respect
for the deceased. If you plan to attend a Chinese funeral, there are a
few types of proper etiquette of which you should be aware.
Practice customary politeness.
If the Chinese funeral service is held in a temple, be prepared to remove
your shoes before entering. This act shows respect for the building as
well as for the deceased and his family. There will also be times that
people bow as a display of respect. You can practice good etiquette by
following the lead of other mourners when you are unsure when to bow or
remove your shoes.
Wear respectful attire.
Choose conservative clothing to wear at the funeral or viewing. Dark colors
and black are common clothing color choices worn by mourners, but not
a requirement. Avoid wearing red to a Chinese funeral, as this color represents
prosperity and happiness, and to do so would be an example of extremely
poor etiquette. The grieving family will commonly wear white, a color
traditionally associated with sadness.
Express your condolences.
To convey your sympathy to the family, write a heartfelt note that expresses
your grief over the loss of the deceased. If you were close with the person,
consider including words about a fond memory that you have of the deceased,
and adding an appropriate poem or verse to the note is a commonly held
practice. Also, send the family flowers, but be sure to instruct the florist
to include nothing red, such as flowers, ribbons, or the vase. Instead,
request yellow or white flowers and accessories.
If you are planning a funeral near Oahu, HI, consider having the burial
service and ceremony provided by
Valley of the Temples Memorial Park. We offer a variety of signature services, cemetery options, and more
to help you honor the deceased. You can reach us at (808) 239-8811 to