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    Choosing Funeral Attire for Your Loved One

    Last updated 1 day 5 hours ago

    The process of planning a funeral can be daunting. Details such as how to dress your loved one and which personal items to include with the burial or cremation process must be thoroughly planned out before the funeral service. Below are a few tips that will help you choose funeral attire for your loved one.


    When considering how you want to dress your loved one, think about what outfit he or she would have liked to be buried in. You may choose to dress your loved one in new clothes that you’ve purchased for the occasion, or clothes that your loved one already owned. If the deceased had a favorite or special outfit, this may be fitting. Many people consider formal attire to be more fitting for a funeral, but you should feel free to dress the person in any outfit he or she might have loved.

    Personal Items

    Another important consideration when choosing funeral attire for your loved one is which personal belongings to include during the burial or cremation. You will want to gather these items and bring them to the funeral home before the service. There are no rules regarding what a person can be buried with. Consider adding family photographs, favorite books, sentimental items, and favorite jewelry. If the body is going to be cremated, take all metal objects from the body prior to cremation, including jewelry, belts, and piercings.

    Religious Considerations

    Speak with your local religious leader to learn more about the religious traditions, customs, and expectations regarding funeral services. There may be specific burial or cremation procedures, including specific rules regarding the funeral attire and personal belongings included in the burial or cremation.

    Valley of the Temples Memorial Park of Oahu has been providing funeral services and funeral pre-planning since 1963. To learn more about the funeral and cemetery arrangements we offer at our Byodo-In temple, visit our website or call us at (888) 723-6620.

    Guidelines for Coping with Grief

    Last updated 8 days ago

    The death of a loved one can be extremely difficult to handle. After attending his or her funeral, you may find that there is a feeling of grief that lingers for weeks, months, or even years. While there is no right way to grieve, many people find it helpful to be surrounded by friends and family that can provide support. If the pain of grieving is intense and you are having trouble healing, seeing a counselor can be very helpful. Watch the video for more tips on coping with grief. 

    At Valley of the Temples Memorial Park Oahu, we offer grief support services that can help you cope with the loss of a friend or family member. Visit our website to learn more about grief, and call us at (888) 723-6620 if you have any questions about our funeral services. If you are planning a funeral, we also offer a variety of funeral pre-planning and cemetery arrangements at our beautiful temple in Oahu. 

    Factors to Consider When Planning a Memorial Service

    Last updated 15 days ago

    A memorial service is a time to honor the life of a lost loved one while bringing family and friends together to support each other during a difficult time. Sometimes, planning a memorial service while you’re grieving can seem overwhelming, but it can be broken down into a few simple steps. Valley of the Temples is here to help with any questions you may have about planning a service at our memorial park. Here are some of the factors you should consider when putting together the service.


    Start by considering where the memorial service will be held. You can opt for a formal, religious service followed by a cemetery visit, or you can choose a less formal environment, such as a favorite restaurant or an outdoor location your lost loved one treasured. Decide if there will be multiple memorials to which different people are invited, or a single service. For instance, you may want to have a memorial service in a restaurant for a large group and a separate ceremony for close family members at the cemetery.


    Funeral services with visitation and traditional burials usually happen within a few days of a loved one’s passing. However, if you’re simply having a memorial service, you have more flexibility. If you’re expecting out-of-town guests to attend, plan the service for a date that gives them enough time to plan their travel. Be sure that your desired venue is available for the date in question.

    Service Style

    To put together the service itself, consider things like music, flowers, and refreshments. Displaying photos of your loved one at the venue can spark conversations about happy memories. Decide who will lead the service and if you wish to have speakers. If you do have speakers, consider whether you want them to read from religious texts, share poems, or deliver traditional eulogies.

    Valley of the Temples allows great flexibility for memorial services, so you can design one that truly reflects your lost loved one’s life. At our Oahu memorial park, we also offer a range of burial and cremation options, as well as funeral pre-planning. Learn more about our funeral services by calling our Oahu cemetery at (888) 723-6620.  

    Examining the Different Types of Cremation Ceremonies

    Last updated 24 days ago

    Many people believe that choosing cremation means that you will have few memorial options, but in reality, cremation actually offers the most choices. At Valley of the Temples, we can help you select the right cremation ceremony for your lost loved one. Here is a look at some of the choices.

    Simple ceremonial cremation combines a funeral services with cremation. Before cremation, there is a visitation, followed by a religious or non-religious memorial service. With simple memorial cremation, there is no visitation prior to cremation, but the memorial service is still held. Non-ceremonial cremation forgoes the visitation and memorial service. After cremation is performed, the ashes can be prepared for entombment or burial at the cemetery, or they can be returned to the family.

    Let Valley of the Temples help you plan the best cremation ceremony to remember your loved one. At our Oahu cemetery, we offer entombments and traditional burials for cremations. Learn more about our cremation services by calling our memorial park at (888) 723-6620.   

    Coping with the Loss of a Loved One

    Last updated 1 month ago

    There is no easy way to face the loss of a loved one. However, you can learn to cope with the loss while supporting your family and friends in their grief. One of the first steps you can take is to plan a memorial service for your loved one. Remembering his or her life while you gather with family and friends will give you comfort. At Valley of the Temples, we can help your family with cemetery arrangements in Oahu as you plan your loved one’s memorial service. Here are some other ways you can cope with your grief over your loss.

    Don’t Isolate Yourself

    You may feel a strong urge to be alone while you’re mourning, but it’s important to stay connected to family and friends. Lean on your family and friends, and allow them to lean on you. Don’t hesitate to speak up and tell people exactly what kind of support you need, and when help is offered, accept it. Engaging with family and friends will remind you that you have a support system and that you don’t have to face your grief alone. It may also help to see that you’re not the only one in mourning and that others understand the pain you’re feeling.

    Accept Your Grieving Process

    Everyone mourns differently, and there’s no right or wrong way to feel about losing a loved one. Don’t put pressure on yourself to feel a certain way or to hurry up and get over your feelings. Give yourself permission to experience your feelings as they come, and allow your friends and family to grieve in their own ways.

    Take Care of Your Physical Health

    The emotional toll of grief can be so overwhelming that your physical wellbeing takes a backseat. It’s important to eat well, get enough sleep, and get physical activity when you can. Letting your physical health slip will only increase your emotional strain.

    Valley of the Temples offers a variety of burial options at our Oahu memorial park. Call us to discuss cemetery arrangements and to learn more about funeral pre-planning and our Byodo-In temple. Call us toll-free at (888) 723-6620 to reach our Oahu cemetery.  

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