For many people, pre-planning funeral services only makes sense because
it enables them to express their preferences and it prevents family members
from feeling unsure or conflicted regarding these important decisions.
When it’s time to
pre-plan a funeral, however, some individuals may find it difficult to discuss these issues
with their family members.
Choosing the Right Time
When it comes to discussing emotionally charged issues, choosing the right
time is especially important. For parents who need to discuss funeral
services with their adult children, it may be best to discuss pre-planning
when they have already established a plan. When adult children need to
broach the subject with their aging parents, it’s generally best
to have the conversation sooner, rather than later. Life holds unexpected
surprises and delaying the conversation for too long may mean that it
never takes place at all.
Talking to Aging Parents
Adult children often try to find a
tactful way to broach this difficult subject with their aging parents. An adult child might say, “Mom, one of
my friends recently lost a parent. I know this is difficult to talk about,
but I want to make sure your wishes are respected when the time comes.”
Another way to broach the subject is for adult children to discuss their
own pre-planning decisions. If parents are willing to pre-plan a funeral,
children could offer to go with them to meet the funeral director.
Talking to Adult Children
Parents might sometimes hesitate to discuss their funeral plans with their
adult children because they don’t want to needlessly worry them.
If a serious health issue did prompt the pre-planning process; however,
it’s usually best to be upfront about this problem. Otherwise, parents
can begin the conversation by reassuring their children that is no pressing
health concern, but that they want to make the aftermath of a passing
easier on the children when the time comes. Explain where the plan is
located and answer questions about the details if you wish.
Valley of the Temples, we believe that pre-planning funeral services is a natural part of the
cycle of life. Our funeral home offers a variety of options to assist
your family. You could begin pre-planning through our website or call
us at (808) 206-7610 to arrange an appointment with one of our pre-planning
advisors at our funeral home near Oahu, HI.