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Many people mistakenly believe that choosing cremation means that there can’t be a viewing or funeral service. In reality, there are many different options for cremations, including some that don’t include any type of service and some that involve both a visitation and funeral. Simple ceremonial cremation is one of these options.
With simple ceremonial cremation, the family hosts visitation for loved ones before the cremation is performed. After visitation, there is also a service for the lost family member that can be a traditional religious funeral or simply a private gathering. After the visitation and service, the cremation is performed and the ashes are prepared for final memorialization or returned to the family, depending on preferences.
Whether you’re pre-planning your own funeral or are planning the funeral of a loved one, Valley of the Temples can help you understand your options and make the appropriate arrangements. For more information, call us in Oahu at (888) 723-6620.
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At Valley of the Temples, our Oahu cemetery honors the traditions of all faiths. Our non-practicing Buddhist Byodo-In Temple welcomes people of all religions to worship and meditate in the beautiful surroundings. The temple is also a peaceful spot to visit your lost loved one buried on our grounds. Among the many different style funerals we hold, we welcome practicing Buddhists to use our grounds and temple to honor lost family members. Here is an overview of some common Buddhist funeral traditions we welcome.
Buddhist tradition holds that religious funeral services should be scheduled for the third, seventh, 49th, or 100th day after the death. However, in modern times, this schedule has been made more flexible to accommodate the needs of the family. According to tradition, the funeral may be limited to close family, or it may be opened up to the general public. Before the service, Dana—an act that is supposed to purify the mind of the person performing it—is done so that Sangha, or a blessing of the community, can be delivered and then bestowed upon the deceased.
Visitation is not always part of Buddhist funerals. When it does occur, the deceased is dressed in simple clothes and placed in an unadorned casket. Near the casket, an altar with images of Buddha, a photo of the deceased, flowers, and incense is set up. Chanting may be performed to aid in reflection of the loss. Non-Buddhist tributes, such as military or civil rites, are welcome as long as they don’t conflict with Buddhist beliefs.
Guests at a Buddhist funeral service should dress in white clothing, rather than black. During the service, chanting, often led by monks, will take place. After the service, if there is to be a burial, guests may travel en masse to the cemetery for a final graveside service.
Let Valley of the Temples help you plan a funeral for your loved one that honors all of your beliefs and traditions. Our Oahu cemetery offers a wide range of options to ensure your memorial to your loved one is truly fitting. Find out how we can help you by calling (888) 723-6620.
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Check out what's going on at our Byodo-In Temple this month here. Schedule may change without notice, so feel free to contact us at (808) 239-9844.
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There is no right or wrong age for a child to attend a funeral. Consider the specific needs of your child and how you anticipate he or she may react to the funeral. This video offers additional guidance to help you make your decision.
Start by explaining funerals to your child so he or she knows what to expect. Be prepared for your child to not fully understand the concept of funerals or the permanence of death. When possible, respect your child’s wishes about funeral attendance.
At Valley of the Temples, we’re committed to providing a peaceful funeral experience as you say goodbye to a lost loved one. For information about our Oahu memorial park or funeral pre-planning services, call (808) 239-8811.
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Experiencing profound sadness after the loss of a loved one is natural. However, it’s important to recognize when your feelings may be more than grief and may actually be depression. If you’re experiencing intense grief without relief long after the funeral has ended, then you may need to talk to a mental health professional for help with your feelings. Consider this comparison of grief and depression, and consult a physician to determine which best describes your feelings.
There is no right way to experience grief. It causes a range of emotions, from sadness to guilt to anger. Many people swing back and forth between these emotions while grieving a loss. Physical symptoms may also accompany grief, including trouble sleeping, nausea, weight changes, and lowered immunity. The one constant thing about grief is that it is almost always changing. While grieving, you will still experience periods of relief, happiness, and laughter. Eventually, grief should move from being your central focus to something that remains in the background.
Depression and grief share many of the same symptoms, but with one major difference. With depression, relief never comes. You won’t experience moments of happiness or find comfort in the activities or people you used to enjoy. Your depressed feelings become the defining characteristic of your life, and you may lack the motivation required to try to find relief.
What To Do If It’s More Than Grief
There is no timetable for dealing with grief, but if your symptoms sound more like depression, see your doctor for help. Therapy and medications can help you recover from your depression and may even help you progress through the grieving process. It may also help to find a support group for people going through the same experiences.
Valley of the Temples is proud to provide grief and healing support services to the families who choose our Oahu cemetery for the funeral of a loved one. We offer a range of services, including funeral pre-planning, cemetery arrangements, and more. Learn additional information about our memorial park by calling (808) 239-8811.